As many of you know my heart has been for adoption since I was a little girl. I’ve had the honor of caring for the least of these, and as the years have gone by since my time in India, I have watched many children whom I knew walk into their forever families. And as I see their parents facebook posts and read their blogs, my heart fills with JOY knowing that there is one-less orphan in this world.
When Luke and I met, we both began talking about children and agreed that we both felt like God had laid it on our hearts to pursue adoption, not sure of when or how, but that our family would reflect the beauty of adoption. It’s something we have both continued to feel strongly about even when we debated moving forward with having biological kids and waiting.
It is a very real statement, that once you see and know the face of the fatherless, you can’t forget them. God won’t let you. It’s just that simple. And I am grateful that God led me to encounter working with orphans in India while in the midst of getting to know Lucas. Luke fell in love with a girl who loved children who needed families, and in turn, he loved them too. To this day, nearly 4 years since I came home from India, he still has the picture of Lily and me that I sent him on his birthday, as his screen lock on his phone.
We passed our first anniversary and have recently moved in to our new home. We are both trying to wrap our heads around this new reality that God is leading us into. We are adopting from India! We are taking it day-by-day, knowing that the road ahead may be long, but immeasurably worth the wait. God is never wrong in His timing, and we are not going to question Him. He is leading, and we are jumping, completely at peace.
After all of our travels and adventures, we are starting our biggest adventure yet, together. We are waiting for the one that will make us parents. I have had a rollercoaster week of emotions. I’m overjoyed and yet I can break down at the simplest things.
This morning at church was our Children’s Christmas concert, and I could barely get through it without tearing up. I have so much to be thankful for that my heart seems to want to explode with gratitude knowing that our little one could already be in this world, dancing, laughing, singing. I imagined her spinning around the sanctuary, following along with all the songs, and taking it all with a great seriousness as we (her parents) watch so proudly, front row-center. To say that I look forward to this day is a great understatement.
When I lived in India, I loved my kids, I did the late night rocks to sleep, the sick days, witnessing first steps, first words, and I’ve always longed to witness those again with our own little one that we will never ever have to say goodbye to. And while we are only in the very beginning stages we’ve only just got our feet wet, and are far from the finish line, I already feel my heart overwhelmed by a child across the world. I’m already ready to fight to bring her home.
We started our homestudy at the beginning of November, and we are 3/5 completed. (Happy dance!) I will write soon about everything homestudy related.
Why are we adopting?
The timing is perfect because it is God’s timing. For Indian adoption, you have to be married for 2 years. It will take us around 8 months to complete our homestudy, get that Ministry approved, and sent to our adoption agency, and over across the ocean to India. So by August 28th of 2017, we will be well on our way to being matched with out little girl.
So many people ask the questions, “Why does it cost so much? Why is getting a child so expensive?”. We understand the need to know the “why” and know where the money is going so we want to share with you the list (that was provided to us at the beginning of this process. In order to make things legal, cut down on child trafficking, etc, there are lots of steps to this process and each of these steps require work done from different people. We need to do a home study (done by our adoption practitioner), background checks, fingerprints, piles and piles of paper-work, as well as walk through the process with both India and Canada. This all adds up.
The total cost of the adoption will be around $29,000 dollars. It sounds like a lot I know, but we trust that adoption is God's will for us and we are trusting that all the funds will be there as needed.
We are in the very first stage right now. Our homestudy is under way and our first big hurdle is to raise our initial payments. This is where you come in. They say it takes a village…and when it comes to adoption that couldn’t be more true. Not only is the financial burden heavy, but also the process can be exhausting, full of ups and downs and unknowns. We can’t do this alone. We also want our little one to know that they were fought for, that they have a community of people who played a part in helping bring them home.
Right now the average time from start to home is about a year and a half to two years. We will face a lot of waiting throughout the process.
We have prayed a lot about who God has for us. We’ve put that we would be open to a child under 6 years old, certain special needs, and a girl. As we walk through the process they will help narrow down our best fit and then we will be matched with whomever God has for us. We cannot wait to see her little face in that match photo.
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Thank you so much for allowing us to share our story.
From parents in the making,
Lucas and Sarah